Boundaries, respect, how to say no

Boundaries | The Foundation | Part 2-5

Hi, I’m MaryAiñe Curtis of Return 2 Joy, which is what I like to help people do. Today we’re going to talk a little more about boundaries and the boundaries that you feel in your body. Begin with a foundation. And the foundation begins with a belief in who you are in yourself. That you are important, that you do possess intelligence and contribute to society and the good of the whole. So that’s a belief that is learned and cultivated and over time the more you do this, the more that you feel good about yourself, the easier it is to anticipate that people will feel good about you and your desires, your once your boundaries and have the respect for you that delivers it. So foundation. So a foundation to me is a spiritual, you know, in touch with God, goddess, a higher power, the creator spirit, the universe, the name that you use is individual and to be respected, it doesn’t have to be a particular belief system and it’s not dogma.

It is a belief in something greater than yourself that puts you here. You have a purpose and your purpose is part of what makes you who you are, the things that you’re interested in, the things that you’re passionate about, the things that make you, you know, think about them during the night and wake up excited to do them in the morning. These are the things that are a part of who you are as a person, as a spirit being and how you go about in the world, how you, the language you use, the people that you surround yourself with, the types of things you want to learn about. And nature. Nature is another huge part of who we are, how we interact with nature and respect nature. And so there’s a saying that how you do anything is how you do everything and that it’s a very blanket statement.

But I believe that there’s truth in this that it’s you respect your home, you respect yourself, you respect your belongings, then you respect other peoples. And so that’s kind of a given that if you have respect for the things that you’ve earned, then you will also have a respect for the things that other people have learned earned. So the boundaries are natural, that instance, because it’s just, it’s kind of a given belief that you have. So when the boundaries are not respected, I think it’s because the person doesn’t really feel good about themselves. And if you don’t feel good about yourself, then why would you respect someone else’s stuff? And, and that’s a belief and it’s a pattern.

So a belief of who we are is a big part of having strong boundaries is a strong belief in who you intend to be in the world and how you behave, how you behave. So it’s a simple thing, but it’s so important. So how do I determine what feels good to me? How you feel in your body, how you feel after an action you take. Now on TV, it’s, there’s a lot of sitcoms that have a lot of sarcasm. It’s really not very pretty or nice. It’s cutting. Sarcasm actually means shredding or cutting a person. It’s ugly. And it’s very rude and it’s not really a sign of love. If I didn’t love you, I wouldn’t do it. You’ve heard that before. Well, think about how the things you say make you feel. Now if you’re up here in your head and you’re just thinking about things and you’re coming off real quick lines kind of joking, well you don’t really get into your heart when you’re doing that, but when you drop down into your height and what I mean by that is letting your sense come into your body into where all the feelings are and feel the effect that it has.

I’m going to give you an example of when you feel good. When you think about something that feels good to you, you feel lighter and just go ahead and do this. Think about something that you feel good about and notice how your body feels. Now think about something that really is not good, sad or felt bad, and you notice what happens to your body.

Generally your body gets heavier and it just gets slower because the vibration of what you were thinking about affected your body. Now let’s go back to something that makes you feel good and let that vibration come back up. So your vibrations, the way you feel are your guide, it is like a Geiger counter that tells you the action that I took made me feel good or it didn’t. Maybe it made me feel guilty or bad that I should. I owe an apology. Pay attention to that because those little things, they pile up, they don’t go away, they get bigger over time and it’s like this thing you’re stuffing into a closet that you got to slam the door. If you build up too many of them and sometimes you, you just didn’t know is the way people behaved around you and you want to change that, you want to feel better about who you are as an individual.

So let’s go back to the foundation. The foundation is you connect with spirit with God. You make your connection, you let that sink in, that you are not alone. You bring your awareness into your body. Check in, see, how do I feel? Do I feel good and uplifted or do I feel heavy? Like there’s something on my mind that I said or did that making an apology would help me feel better owning my action. Owning that I said something that was intended to hurt someone will make a difference when you apologize and then you clear the air and you feel better when you do these kinds of things, then you can start each day with a clean slate and know that you can start over your day anytime at all. Just because you had a bad morning doesn’t mean it has to ruin your whole day. You can stop with what made it feel bad and start over connection to God or your source energy connection with yourself. And let’s see how we went to recreate the day. It’s easier than you think and you can do it anytime.

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MaryAine Curtis
MaryAiñe Curtis is a member of Associated Bodywork and Massage Professionals(ABMP). She studied Cranio Sacral therapy, Somato Emotional Release and Heart Centered Therapy through the Upledger Institute curriculum. She is a Master Rapid Eye Technologist, and member of the Overlight Healing Team. She can be heard speaking twice a month on the community radio show at Deeper Than Memory, Deeper Money on 97.3 FM, focused on the connection of women and relationships On her off time, and to find healing inspiration for the programs she offers, MaryAine loves to hike with her Bodhi pup where she resides in a little ocean town on the California coastline. She spends as much joyful time as possible with her grandsons,family, her sweetheart and dear friends.